You Live and You Learn
“My baby is a 10
We dressing to the 9
He pick me up, we 8
Make me feel so lucky 7”
So, there will be no story time with Alexa this week. :(
But fret not, I have something super cool (at least to me) to share with you guys.
In the spirit of the masterpiece that is “Countdown” by the Queen B and this being my last blog post of the summer, I have decided to do a countdown of things I learned during my freshman year at Harvard.
5. Healing and growth take time.
I have been through adversity at every step in my life and I am still in the process of moving past some of these things. I often find myself being hard on myself for not growing as fast as I would like to or think I should, but I have realized that growth is a process and it can take a long time, but it will happen. Whether it’s a bad habit, a new skill, or an old problem, give yourself time. You’ll reach your goal eventually.
4. Burritos are not a food group.
Okay so, despite what I may *personally* believe, it is not healthy to eat a burrito for every meal.
3. You don’t have to have it all figured out.
In high school I was always on top of things. I knew what I wanted and how to get it. I thought I had life figured out, but I didn’t, and that’s okay. After freaking out and having a slight existential crisis when I got to college and realized I didn’t want to be a doctor, I’ve learned to explore new things and go with the flow because I have so much more about myself and life to discover. Even though it feels like I’m an “adult,” I haven’t lived much life yet and there are so many things out there for me that I don’t even know exist.
2. It’s okay to ask for help.
Mental health, food recommendations, homework, friendship advice, etc. It’s okay to need guidance. We all do. There are so many resources on college campuses, so USE THEM. I waited til second semester to try out all the resources here at Harvard and I still regret waiting so long.
1. Don’t compare yourself to others.
This one is the most important to me. Class rankings in high school were the bane of my existence. We don’t rank in college (#blessed) but I still found myself subconsciously comparing myself to others because it had been instilled in me during my time pre-college. At Harvard, I am constantly surrounded by brilliant, talented people and for a while it felt like my success was trivial compared to theirs, but it isn’t. It was so easy to see the greatness in others, but not in myself because I expected our success to look the same, but it doesn’t. Everyone is magnificent in their own way at their own things, myself included, so comparisons are insignificant and unlikely to benefit me in any way, so I try not to focus on them.
I’ve learned countless things since being at college, but it all boils down to taking care of myself: physically, emotionally, socially, psychologically and academically.
Here’s a picture of me and my best friend/roommate, Jasmin, who helped me learn many of these things I shared with you all. Here’s to good friends: may you know one, may you be one.
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Hey y’all! My name is Alexa Brown. I am a proud first-gen college student, born and raised in Springfield, IL and now living in Dunster House (D Haus best house!). When I am not singing with... View full profile